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Hollywood holds #MeToo march against sexual harassment

Hundreds of people have marched in Hollywood in support of victims of sexual assault and harassment, inspired by the #MeToo social media campaign.

The march follows a torrent of assault and harassment allegations against public figures, set off by revelations about the movie mogul Harvey Weinstein.

The marchers started on Hollywood Boulevard and walked along the "Walk of Fame" to CNN's headquarters.

They were predominantly women but many men attended.

Tara McNamarra, 21, of Los Angeles, told Reuters news agency that the march felt cleansing after years of not being taken seriously about abuse.

"I've been sexually assaulted multiple times throughout my life," she said. "It's affected me in every aspect of my life."

The #MeToo hashtag was first used by social activist Tarana Burke and popularised by actress Alyssa Milano in the wake of the Weinstein allegations.

Ms Burke led Sunday's march. "For every Harvey Weinstein, there's a hundred more men in the neighborhood who are doing the exact same thing," she wrote on Facebook ahead of the event.

"What we're seeing, at least for now, is a unity of survivors, a community of survivors that have grown out of this #MeToo viral moment, that I'm just hoping and praying that we can sustain."

• How 'MeToo' is exposing the scale of sexual abuse
• Harvey Weinstein: The accusers' stories
• How the scandal unfolded
• Louis CK admits sexual misconduct allegations

The actor Kevin Spacey and comedian Louis CK are among the high-profile figures accused of sexual harassment over the past few weeks.

Louis CK published an apology on Friday, admitting after years of denials that the allegations were true.

"The power I had over these women is that they admired me. And I wielded that power irresponsibly," he wrote.

The New York Times reported in October that Weinstein, 65, had settled out of court with eight women who had accused him of sexual harassment and unwanted physical contact.

Weinstein has also been accused of rape, but said through a spokesperson that he "unequivocally denied" any allegations of non-consensual sex.

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The Latest: Trump avoids questions about human rights

The Latest on President Donald Trump's visit to Asia (all times local):

1:25 p.m.

President Donald Trump is ignoring questions about human rights abuses as he meets with the president of the Philippines, Rodrigo Duterte (doo-TEHR'-tay), on the sidelines of an international summit in Manila.

Trump says he and Duterte have "had a great relationship." He's also applauding the Philippines' on their staging of the conference.

Trump says he enjoyed the event's opening dinner and says, "We very much appreciated the great treatment you've given."

Duterte has come under fierce criticism from human rights groups for overseeing a violent drug war complete with extrajudicial killings.

Trump has previously praised Duterte's handling of his nation's drug problems.

Trump did not respond to shouted questions about whether he'd raise the issue. Duterte says their bilateral meeting is not a press conference.

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11:50 a.m.

President Donald Trump says he'll be delivering a "major statement" Wednesday when he's back in Washington to discuss what he's accomplished on his big Asia trip.

Trump says during a meeting with Japan's Prime Minister Shinzo Abe and Malcolm Turnbull, the prime minister of Australia that "it will be a very complete statement as to trade, as to North Korea, as to a lot of other things."

He says, "We've made some very big steps with regard to trade—far bigger than anything you know," in addition to business deals forged between U.S. and foreign companies.

"Except us," Turnbull chimed in.

Trump says the three leaders will be talking about North Korea, trade and other subjects.

He says he'll wait to Wednesday to give the reporters traveling with him time to sleep.

Trump will also be having an informal dinner later Monday with Turnbull.

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9:00 a.m. Monday

President Donald Trump is winding down his lengthy Asia trip with trio of meetings with Pacific Rim allies, including his host in the Philippines who is overseeing a bloody drug war.

Trump on Monday attended the opening ceremonies of the Association for Southeast Asian Nations conference in Manila. The event opened with pageantry, including a group photo of the leaders and the summit's traditional handshake. That cross-body shake, during which each leader shakes the opposite hands of those next to him, briefly baffled Trump, who then laughed as he figured out where to place his arms.

One of the leaders on his flank was Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte, who has overseen a bloody drug war that has featured extrajudicial killings. Trump also is scheduled to meet with Australian Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull and Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi.

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4:05 a.m. Monday

A day after being criticized by President Donald Trump, a former CIA director questioned whether Russian President Vladimir Putin was manipulating Trump with flattery during the president's lengthy trip to Asia.

Trump's trip is meant to be centered on trade and North Korea, and on Monday he is set to talk with Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte (doo-TEHR'-tay). But Trump remains dogged by things he has said, and not said, about Russia.

John Brennan said Sunday on CNN's "State of the Union" that Trump is trying to "delegitimize" the U.S. intelligence community's assessment that Russia meddled in the 2016 presidential election to help Trump defeat Democrat Hillary Clinton.

Brennan says Putin is "very clever in terms of playing to Mr. Trump's interest in being flattered." He says it demonstrates that Trump "can be played by foreign leaders."

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12:25 a.m.

President Donald Trump's lengthy Asia trip is winding down as it began, with a visit meant to be centered on trade and North Korea shadowed by questions about Russia.

Trump was in the Philippines on Monday and remains dogged by things he has said, and has not said, about Russia.

On Saturday, he dismissed the former U.S. intelligence officials who said Russia meddled in the 2016 presidential elections as "political hacks."

On Sunday, he tried to have it both ways, saying he believes both the U.S. intelligence agencies when they say Russia meddled and Russian President Vladimir Putin's sincerity in claiming that his country did not.

Former CIA director John Brennan said Sunday on CNN's "State of the Union" that Trump is trying to "delegitimize" the intelligence community's assessment.

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8:10 p.m. Sunday

President Donald Trump is attending a gala in the Philippines celebrating the 50th anniversary of the Association of Southeast Asian Nations.

Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte (doo-TEHR'-tay) greeted Trump and other leaders one by one as they arrived at a convention center in Manila for the glitzy event.

Trump and Duterte shook hands twice and exchanged pleasantries before the leaders posed for a group photo and everyone filed into dinner.

Trump joined his fellow leaders in wearing Philippine formal attire — the Barong Tagalog, or long-sleeved white shirt.

Duterte sat to Trump's left at dinner and they engaged in conversation before the first course was served.

Trump and Duterte will hold more formal talks on Monday

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5:50 p.m.

President Donald Trump has arrived in the Philippines to attend a pair of international summits and close his five-country tour of Asia.

Trump is slated to meet several times with Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte (doo-TEHR'-tay). Duterte has come under intense criticism from human rights advocates for overseeing a violent drug crackdown that includes extrajudicial killings. Trump has previously praised Duterte's handling of his nation's drug problems.

Trump was originally scheduled to depart Manila on Monday but he added a day to the visit so he could more fully participate in one of the summits.

He arrived in Manila on Sunday after a brief stop in Vietnam.

Trump also visited Japan, South Korea and China.

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4:20 p.m.

Questions about Russian meddling in the 2016 election have followed President Donald Trump to Asia.

Trump said during a news conference Sunday in Vietnam that he believes U.S. intelligence agencies, which have concluded Russia interfered in the 2016 U.S. presidential election to help him win.

But Trump also says he believes Russian President Vladimir Putin when Putin claims his country did no such thing.

Trump's comments came shortly before he took off for the Philippines, the final stop of his five-country Asia trip.

Trump is slated to attend a pair of international summits and meet with Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte.

Duterte has come under fierce criticism from human rights groups for overseeing a violent drug war complete with extrajudicial killings.

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Trump to make 'major' announcement on North Korea, trade deals after Asia trip

President Trump says he will make a "major" announcement on North Korea and the outcome of his week-long trade negotiations across East Asia when he returns to Washington later this week.

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"It will be a very complete statement as to trade, as to North Korea as to a lot of other things," Trump said at a meeting with Australian Prime Minister Malcom Turnbull and Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe.

The president said he would make the statement from the White House on Wednesday.

"We've made some very big steps with respect to trade, far bigger than anything you know, in addition to about $300 billion in sales to various companies, including China," he said. "We have deficits with almost everybody. Those deficits are going to be cut very quickly and very substantially."

Earlier in the week, White House press secretary Sarah Sanders said Trump would announce at the "end of the trip" his decision on whether or not to officially re-list North Korea as a state sponsor of terrorism.

An administration official said Monday that a recommendation had been formally presented to the president and he was considering it.

"This has been a very fruitful trip for us, and also in all fairness, for a lot of other nations," Trump said. "The way they're treated us — the respect that Japan and China and South Korea, in particular, because we went there, treated us — has been really a great respect to our country, to the people of the United States."

Trump spoke on the margins of the ASEAN summit, the final stop of his marathon 13-day trip to Asia that has been the longest regional tour by an American president in more than two decades.

With stops in five countries, the president was feted with three official state visits and attended two major economic summits.

"Red carpet like I think probably nobody has ever received," Trump said of how he was welcomed. "That really is a sense of respect, perhaps for me a little bit, but really for our country, and I'm very proud of that."

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In Asia, Trump briefly baffled by group handshake

President Donald Trump is known for his long, at times aggressive, handshakes with world leaders. But at an international summit in the Philippines on Monday, he struggled briefly with a different kind of handshake.

Trump, in Manila, attended the opening ceremonies of the Association for Southeast Asian Nations conference, which began with pageantry and a group photo of the leaders. Then, the announcer intoned that it was time for the leaders to take part in the "traditional" ASEAN handshake. It's a cross-body exercise, during which each leader extends their right arm over their left and shakes the opposite hands of those next to him.

The announcer's instructions briefly baffled Trump, who at first simply crossed his hands in front of him.

Then, looking around, he turned to the leaders that flanked him — Vietnamese Prime Minister Nguyen Xuan Phuc to his right, Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte to his left — and simply extended his arms outward, only to find that wasn't quite right either.

Then he laughed, crossed his arms and reached to the correct sides. He grimaced at first, particularly when bending down to reach the hands of the two shorter leaders next to him.

And then, with an exaggerated smile, he vigorously gripped their hands.

Handshakes have become a Trump trademark in his first year in office. He often pulls the other person toward him and pats or yanks in a sign meant to set a tone for the meeting ahead.

He pulled Japan Prime Minister Shinzo Abe's hand toward him and then held onto it for a long time, prompting an eye roll from Abe as Trump looked away. Trump and French President Emmanuel Macron engaged in a white-knuckle handshake. And Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, meanwhile, short-circuited Trump's attempt at dominance, using his left arm to hold onto to Trump to prevent being pulled toward him.

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Powerful earthquake on Iran-Iraq border kills more than 140

A powerful earthquake shook the Iran-Iraq border late Sunday, killing more than 140 people and injuring 860 in the mountainous region of Iran alone, state media there said.

The Baghdad government did not immediately give word on damage or casualties in that country.

The 7.3-magnitude quake was centered 19 miles (31 kilometers) outside the eastern Iraqi city of Halabja, according to the most recent measurements from the U.S. Geological Survey. It struck at a depth of 23.2 kilometers (14.4 miles), a shallow depth that can have broader damage. Magnitude 7 earthquakes on their own are capable of widespread, heavy damage.

The quake was felt as far west as the Mediterranean coast. Its worst damage appeared to be in Iran's western Kermanshah province, which sits in the Zagros Mountains that divide Iran and Iraq. Residents in the rural area rely mainly on farming to make a living.

Iranian social media and news agencies showed images and videos of people fleeing their homes into the night. Some 50 aftershocks have followed.

The state-run IRNA news agency disclosed the increase in casualties early Monday and said rescue work was continuing overnight and would accelerate during the daytime.

Iran's Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei offered his condolences Monday morning and urged rescuers and all government agencies to do all they could to help those affected, state media reported.

The semi-official ILNA news agency said at least 14 provinces in Iran had been affected by the earthquake.

Officials announced that schools in Kermanshah and Ilam provinces would be closed Monday because of the tremor.

Iranian state TV also said Iraqi officials reported at least six people dead inside Iraq, along with more than 50 people injured in Sulaymaniyah province and about 150 in the city of Khanaquin.

Iran sits on many major fault lines and is prone to near-daily quakes. In 2003, a magnitude 6.6 earthquake flattened the historic city of Bam, killing 26,000 people. The last major casualty earthquake in Iran struck in East Azerbaijan province in August 2012, killing over 300 people.

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Associated Press writer Jon Gambrell in Dubai, United Arab Emirates, contributed to this report.

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Train crash 'kills 33' in Democratic Republic of Congo

A train crash in the Democratic Republic of Congo has killed 33 people, UN radio station Okapi reports.

It happened in Buyofwe in the province Lualaba, in the south of the country.

Radio Okapi said that the train caught fire after crashing into a ravine. According to reports, it was carrying flammable material.

The train was running between Lubumbashi, the second-largest city, and the town of Luena, 2,000km (1,200 miles) from the capital, Kinshasa.

The province's Governor Richard Muyej told the BBC there had been an accident but he could not confirm deaths.

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“Beyond having their physical needs for food, water, shelter, and hygiene met, young children also need plenty of emotional and cognitive support, love, and nurturing. Adult caregivers should make it a point to express love and affection for their children every day.” ~ Angela Oswalt, MSW, Natalie Statts-Reiss, Ph.D., and Mark Dombeck, Ph.D.

The child’s brain

Early childhood years are a period of rapid change in the brain. Early and middle childhood years are when the brain forms complex network connections at the fastest rate.

The forming of the brain’s neurons – a process known as myelination – is 80% complete by age four. In other words, the future adult’s brain is eight-tenths complete.

According to many scientists, the human subconscious dictates about 95 percent of our behavior. When does this “subconscious programming” take place?

From birth to six years.

What’s the significance?

As you know, the brain is responsible for almost everything we think, say, and do. If a child isn’t adequately nurtured, brain development is inevitably affected. Hence, the child’s emotional networks are underdeveloped.

The correlation between the childhood brain’s developmental traits and personality characteristics is both indisputable and universal.

Peg Streep, a New York City-based psychologist, explains the relationship between early childhood and adult life:

“While it’s true that everyone’s childhood experience is different … there are nonetheless broad and reliable statements which can be made about the effect of (childhood) experiences. They are invaluable to understanding how your childhood shaped your personality and behaviors.”

Streep’s passage begs the question: Just what behaviors, or signs, does a person display who was unloved and neglected during childhood?

Here are seven:

1. Lack of trust

Developing a sense of trust on an individual level requires a steady external environment. During childhood, it is essential that the people around us be relatively stable. We must feel safe and feel some semblance of emotional giving from others.

Without a stable and nurturing environment, the child may very well find it difficult to trust others. Of course, this underdevelopment makes just about every type of relationship difficult.

2. Poor emotional intelligence

Children learn to interpret emotions primarily through dyadic communication such as words and gestures. Both play a crucial role in helping the child articulate their feelings, manage fears, understand negative emotions, and develop resilience.

Without the ability to correctly interpret their emotional states, the child may never develop an essential life quality: emotional intelligence.

3. Fear of failure

Tragically, children who grow up in a neglectful environment never develop a healthy sense of self-worth. On the other hand, a stimulating and loving environment can instill confidence and fortitude.

A child who is unloved almost certainly feels an absence of self-esteem; often manifesting as an unjustifiable sense of failure. Many otherwise intelligent people don’t live up to their potential only because they weren’t loved and embraced as children.

4. Toxic relationships

The human brain learns primarily through association and pattern recognition. In psychology and cognitive neuroscience, pattern recognition is “a cognitive process that matches information from a stimulus (the outside world) with information retrieved from memory.”

Regarding relationships, the unloved child will seek out the familiar; namely, toxic people.

5. Insecurity and attachment

Every legitimate mental health expert will agree that a positive environment outside of the home helps – at least, to some degree – counteract the negativity found inside of the home.

But this is where things get complicated (and infuriating).

If a child can not rely on the very people who are responsible for ensuring his or her caregiving, how can he or she rely on anyone?

6. Depression and anxiety

It is no surprise that unloved children often battle mental health issues.

Depression and anxiety stemming from (a) having experienced neglect, and (b) the inevitable complications that surface once the child ages, are commonly-cited experiences.

Depression and anxiety are the two most common mental health issues in the world. And the chances of an adult developing both increases substantially with a history of neglect.

7. Oversensitivity

We’ve all heard the term “Don’t take it personally.” On the whole, this is solid advice. People dealing with their own issues often project these issues onto others, and it behooves us to understand this human inclination.

However, for someone who had the misfortune of growing up in an unloving home, to not take things personally goes against the grain of their psyche. After all, the person must now contend with an intense fear of rejection – a byproduct of feeling insignificant and unloved.

“Stop being so sensitive” is a go-to phrase of abusers; ironically, this belittlement only heaps onto the person’s already fragile sensibilities.

Final Thoughts

“Overall, caregivers communicate love and nurturing through how they live their own lives.”

Everyone has their own way of showing love to children; but it is through showing love – regardless of the method – that sets the very foundation for the rest of their lives.

In an article named “Early Childhood Love And Nurturing,” written by three prominent child psychologists, the experts provide the following advice:

– Making it a priority to demonstrate love and affection for your children every day.

– Giving words of praise when earned (through chores, academic achievements, etc.)

– Showing a positive outlook and exhibiting emotional maturity (calmness, patience, etc.) creates a peaceful environment for children.

– As a parent or caregiver, feeling “consistently grouchy, irritable, negative, or sad” may hinder a child’s development.

– It is necessary “to get assistance … (through) a support system for encouragement and assistance.”

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Sources:
http://bbbgeorgia.org/brainTimeEarlyChild.php
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/knotted/2017/03/unloved-in-childhood-10-common-effects-on-your-adult-self/
https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/early-childhood-love-and-nurturing/

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“Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.” ~ Albert Einstein

Being in love is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer.

There’s a reason why that unique (often elusive) someone is called a soul-mate: because they indeed make us complete in this area.

Those of us who are fortunate enough to be in love understand both the excitement and the responsibility of it. Many of us, at a certain point, went through a contemplation period wherein we questioned our feelings of love.

Contemplation and questioning are only natural. Love is a big thing. It is equal parts exciting, rewarding, and scary. (Regarding the last, who hasn’t felt a little fear for their health and safety?)

The meaning of the word love is very subjective, but we can say for sure that anyone who’s experienced it knows it’s the best feeling ever.

While attempting to quantify and define specific “signs” of love is an ambitious (impossible?) task, we nonetheless believe this endeavor to be worthwhile.

The following ten items may offer some words of comfort, gratitude, and reassurance in your relationships. We sincerely hope that these words will bring about some of these stirring feelings and emotions.

Here are ten signs you’re in the love with the right person:

1. They’re the best part of your day

No matter how good or bad the day is going, our special someone has a way of making it better. There’s something quite magical about our loved one in that their mere presence makes us feel more at peace. There’s something quite thrilling about them too, as our favorite pastime (e.g., movie watching, eating out) is a lot more exciting and fun when they partake.

2. You worry often

Love is equally exciting and scary, remember? Well, it’s only natural that we worry for our soulmate on occasion. You’ll feel that anxiety in your gut when they start a new job, leave for a trip, or embark on a new life path. You’ll feel a bit of apprehension about their health and safety too.

3. You’re always touching them

It doesn’t matter if you two are on the jumbotron – you’ll happily display your affection by touching, kissing, and caressing. Even non-touchy-feely types will often find themselves feeling or holding whatever appendage of their partner happens to be available.

4. Their pain is yours

That’s right: the whole thing about owning your pain goes out the window the moment you fall in love. We can’t honestly hold onto something if someone else refuses to let go.

Love and pain are inseparable. And it’s the most beautiful (albeit, heart-wrenching) type of pain, too.

5. You’re ready to throw down

“Who said/did that to you?!?!”

We pride ourselves on being peacemakers here, but tell us there hasn’t been a time when you were ready to bull rush someone (even a group of “someone’s”) who hurt your sweetheart.

Note: It’s the worst feeling when you go after the wrong person. It’s also incredibly embarrassing (believe me.)

Yeah, about that…

6. You’re protective

Listen, if you’re that mellowed out gal or fellow who lets everything just “be,” even with your partner, count yourself lucky.

We innately protect the people we care for. Smitten men especially are overprotective when it comes to their woman. There’s a fine line, however, between being protective and overbearing – don’t cross it!

7. You’re kind of gross

There’s no delicate way to put this, so we won’t try. You’ll burp, fart, bite your nails, and demonstrate sub-optimal hygiene in front of your loved one.

In other words, your little idiosyncrasies come to the surface. Permitted that these imperfections are not deliberate, they can be part of what makes you unique in the other person’s eyes.

8. You think about the future

Okay, so thinking about the future is a bit obvious – but nonetheless important. It’s only natural that, after a period of time, some consideration is given to the days ahead. Maybe it’s having a lovely home, starting a family, or bettering yourself when the time comes to settle down.

9. You want to be a better person

In the movie As Good As It Gets, Jack Nicholson brilliantly portrays a cold, OCD-diagnosed recluse who manages to insult just about everyone.

After insulting the woman of his dreams, who then promptly demands a compliment in lieu of leaving, Nicholson says with the utmost sincerity: “You make me want to be a better man.”

While Nicholson’s hapless character almost screws things up again, this epic scene sums up the life-changing power of love.

10. You feel on top of the world

Let’s not get too carried away, here. You’re going to have good and bad days; the latter sometimes exceeding the former. But after the dust settles, and your soulmate is at your side, you’re back on top of that mountain.

And it’s an ever so glorious view.

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Sources:
https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/a/alberteins161775.html
https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/10-ways-know-youre-love-someone-dont-just-like/685279

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“Emotional bullying is a deliberate attempt to hurt someone else, according to the British non-profit parent-support organization Ask Wiltshire. Examples of emotional bullying include cruel teasing, talking viciously about people behind their backs, spreading humiliating rumors, and excluding kids from group activities.” ~ Nobullying.com: “Dealing With Emotional Bullying”

It’s not just physical…

Many people tend to think of bullying in physical terms, or using physical force to harm or threaten someone else.

But not all bullying is physical.

Emotional bullying is both very real and potentially detrimental. In fact, the psychological toll of prolonged emotional bullying may just be more traumatic than physical injury.

Anyone of any age can be a victim of emotional bullying, though we (rightfully) focus on young children, adolescents, and teenagers.

But it’s essential, as adults, that we recognize that adult bullying is a real thing too. Emotional harassment and abuse occur in both intimate and platonic relationships.

What is emotional bullying?

Emotional bullying is emotional abuse, period. And emotional abuse encompasses many potential behaviors: ridicule, cruel speech, humiliation, exclusion, and manipulation among others.

The effects of emotional bullying can be devastating. The victim may suffer from anxiety, depression, cognitive dysfunction, and – in the worst cast scenario – threaten or commit suicide.

Emotional bullying and intimacy

Abby Rodman, a Licensed Social Worker, in a piece for Huffington Post, states:

“…You may already be familiar with some (emotional bullying) signs, which may include withdrawal of affection, name-calling, and control. But if you suspect you’re in an abusive emotional relationship, you may be so immersed in it that you can’t read the very destructive handwriting on the wall. Emotional abuse becomes, in a sense, your blurred normal.”

Emotional Bullying and “Friendship”

To demonstrate just how indiscriminate a bully’s mindset is, consider the fact that they’ll bully friends (even family).

Maya Gittelman, a writer for the website the body is not an apology, states:

“Any relationship that you have with another person can be healthy: a source of positivity and mutual empowerment. Any relationship can also then be unhealthy…it can someone be harder to recognize emotional abuse when it comes from friends rather than family or partners.”

Unfortunately, emotional bullying can occur in any type of relationship.

Common Signs of Emotional Bullying

1. Exclusion

Just as child bullies exclude a youngster from participating in social settings, so do adults.

You may experience this in the workplace, where a bullying coworker tries to dissuade you from staying with the company or team. This exclusionary behavior often involves trying to convince others to segregate you from social engagement.

2. Threats

Bullies try to instill fear and uncertainty in the minds of their victims. To accomplish this, the bully will often issue threats.

For example, a workplace bully – understanding that bullying and harassment are unacceptable in the workplace – may issue an underhanded threat like “I know people here. They’ve got my back.”

A bully’s threats are usually empty – and are used solely to satisfy a bully’s need to feel in control and are probably untrue.

3. Humiliation

Humiliation does three (real or perceived) things for the bully: (1) makes the victim more insecure, (2) boosts their (already sizable) ego, and (3) puts them on center stage, which is what they want.

It’s not surprising, then, that humiliating someone is one of the bully’s favorite tools. Bullies will humiliate their victim in front of others or covertly.

4. Blaming

As bullies don’t like to take responsibility for anything, it comes as no surprise that they pass their faults onto others. Psychologically, bullies are similar to narcissists in this way. The two conditions, by the way, are often mutually inclusive.

Even when they’re not “blaming” others, they’re shunning responsibilities, creating chaos, and looking for someone to target for their recklessness.

5. Slandering

As mentioned, bullies frequently operate “behind the scenes.” It should come as no surprise if you’re the target of behind the back insults.

Just don’t expect to talk some sense into the person. Bullies aren’t usually the most upfront characters.

Speaking of which…

6. Conflict avoidance

This is kind of ‘shocking,’ right? Bullies are supposed to be tough, after all. About that.

It probably comes as little surprise that most bullies are cowards. Speaking of which, we’re going to discuss a few proven ways of handling these characters.

Dealing with bullies

Any healthy relationship is built on admiration, balance, empathy, personal responsibility, respect, and support.

Oppressive bullies don’t see relationships through the same scope. Heck, they don’t even respect the social contract of basic manners. (Remember that whole bully/narcissist thing?)

What to do, then?

1. Stand up for yourself

This first tip is crucial.

Standing up to a bully is a tried and true technique, as it gives the person some unexpected (read: shocking) pushback.

The emotional bully may not completely change, but the odds of them backing off are in your favor.

2. Ignore them

If this is your first go-round with the jerk, consider the simple (yet powerful) silent treatment.

If they keep it up, consider one of the other tips.

3. Report it

The majority of workplaces and schools do not tolerate bullying, especially given the recent public awareness campaigns. Companies and other civic organizations are being forced to reevaluate and revamp their internal policies.

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Sources:
https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/emotional-bullying-and-how-to-deal-with-an-emotional-bully/
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/abby-rodman-licsw/youre-not-going-crazy-5-s_b_8889808.html
https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/6-warning-signs-that-your-friendship-is-abusive/

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“We all have come in contact with the flamboyant narcissist. Their self-absorption can’t be mistaken. But there is also the covert narcissist, who is not so easy to decipher.” ~ Maria Bogdanos

Equally destructive

Despite the outward differences between “flamboyant” and “covert” narcissists, the damage produced by both is pretty much the same.

In fact, the only difference between the two types of narcissists is the way in which they “go about their business.” Flamboyant narcissists are naïve enough to think no one will catch onto their mannerisms – and act accordingly.

Covert narcissists don their fake exterior deliberately and skillfully. The odds are that this type has a better understanding of human psychology, and attempts to use this knowledge to their benefit.

This article focuses on eight narcissistic behaviors that many people either (a) willfully ignore, or (b) don’t perceive.

8 Signs of Narcissism That Most People Ignore

1. Not bothering to care

Narcissists are infamous for simplifying or minimizing the needs of others. They don’t bother to explain the details of a situation (like when someone confronts them with empirical evidence of their condition).

Don’t expect the narcissist to care about anyone or anything but themselves.

2. Inability to listen

When a narcissist isn’t talking (a rare occurrence), they likely aren’t listening either. They’re all-too-eager to carry on nonsensically, but don’t expect them to tune in when it’s your turn to speak.

Focusing on what someone has to say requires a bit of effort and energy, which narcissists aren’t willing to give.

3. Improper communication

On a related note, narcissists are terrible communicators. They’re far too sensitive (read: frail) and take personal offense at the slightest perceived criticism.

They possess neither the need or desire to have a dialogue about anything that doesn’t benefit them. It’s common for narcissists to attempt to disguise their anger by not using words; instead opting to be passive-aggressive.

4. Unauthentic humility

As you know, narcissists are masters at pulling other people’s strings. On this note, they will often display false humility to bait the admiration of others.

Why?

Because the more people are drawn to them, the more options the narcissist has to do what they do best: manipulate.

5. Absence of empathy

Narcissists do not care about you. To them, you are just a means to an end.

Of all outward signs of narcissism, a lack of empathy is perhaps the most commonplace. If you’re ever unsure about someone’s intentions, just attempt to solicit a bit of sympathy.

You won’t find any, and your initial hypothesis will be proven correct. More importantly, you’ll save yourself a bit of heartache and frustration.

6. Their “intelligence.”

It’s funny how some narcissists will brag about their smarts – doing so even if no one else agrees. They attempt to come across as a know-it-all but often end up making a fool of themselves.

Worse, narcissists are almost impossible to collaborate with, as they consider themselves so much smarter and more insightful.

This isn’t to say that intelligent narcissists don’t exist – they most certainly do, but they’re smart enough not to broadcast it.

7. Sense of entitlement

When it comes to wanting something, a narcissist will often act like a 2-year old who wants his bottle. The narcissist should have something merely because they want it – and this is the only criteria.

It goes without saying that narcissists have no concept of merit and are always looking for the easy way out in any given situation.

8. A never-ending search for happiness

If there’s one thing to pity about a narcissist’s state of mind, it’s this: nothing can or will make them happy. Fame, money, power – you name it – it’s never enough.

Perhaps another thing to pity: any ordinary individual will turn to their loved ones for real happiness, which narcissists cannot do.

Final Thoughts

The article delivers some harsh words pertaining to the narcissistic personality. And some of these words are well-deserved from a personal point of view.

It is worth remembering, however, that narcissists are human beings with a genuine, medically-valid personality disorder. Narcissist Personality Disorder (NPD) originates in childhood, which leaves a permanent void in the person’s heart.

More specifically, according to psychologists, narcissists are usually given too much attention or outright neglected during their early years. They’re programmed to behave as they do.

Most people will agree that emotional neglect is traumatizing, and experts agree. Whether we will ever reach a consensus opinion about being spoiled, however, remains to be seen.

It’s also important to understand that – while we can respect a narcissist’s humanity – we needn’t subject ourselves to their behavior. Your emotional, mental, and physical health must come first.

Provided that we pay attention, think rationally, and not jump to conclusions, we’ll have a pretty good idea who the real person is underneath.

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Sources:
http://fortune.com/2015/09/14/narcissist-work-toxic/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/04/30/5-signs-of-covert-narcissism/

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